💔 Part 3: Situationships Ain’t Soul Ties – Learn the Difference, Babe
🧠 Intro: You Called It a Soul Tie, But Baby… It Was Just a Situationship
Let’s cut the fantasy, babe. It wasn’t fate.
It wasn’t divine timing.
And it damn sure wasn’t a soulmate connection.
It was a situationship—with fancy lies, inconsistent affection, and just enough emotion to keep you hoping… but never healing.
We’ve all been there. Calling confusion chemistry. Romanticizing red flags.
You told yourself it was “deep” because it hurt more than it healed.
But here’s the truth no one wants to say out loud: it wasn’t real love. It was trauma bonding dressed up as passion.
And now? It’s time to call it what it was—so you can call your power back.
💅🏽 Stop Making Deep What Was Just Prolonged
Repeat this out loud:
“Just because I felt it deeply doesn’t mean it was meant to last.”
The depth of the pain doesn’t mean it was real.
The fire in the beginning doesn’t mean it was forever.
They breadcrumbed you into believing it was love.
You were loyal to a “vibe”—not a future.
Let that sting. Then let it FREE you.
💔 Signs You Were In a Situationship, Not a Soul Tie:
| 🚩 SYMPTOM | 💭 TRANSLATION |
|---|---|
| “We act like a couple but we’re not official.” | Confusion is the goal—clarity ends the control. |
| “They always come back.” | Of course they do. Chaos creates a cycle. |
| “They just need time to heal.” | You’re not their rehab center. You’re a woman, not a waiting room. |
| “We have a spiritual connection.” | Maybe… or maybe they just know how to mirror your energy to keep you hooked. |
| “I just feel like we’re meant to be.” | Feelings can be manipulated—discernment can’t. |
👑 Soft Power Lesson: You Weren’t in Love. You Were in Survival Mode.
When someone gives you just enough to not leave—but never enough to grow?
That’s not love.
That’s emotional manipulation.
That’s survival mode.
And survival mode is exhausting when all you’ve ever wanted was to feel safe.
Let’s be honest:
You overextended yourself.
You excused inconsistency as “emotional damage.”
You held space when they couldn’t even hold a conversation.
You romanticized struggle because you were scared to be alone.
But no more, babe.
The era of entertaining confusion is over.
🔥 Reclaim Your Power: 5 Ways to Detox a Situationship from Your Spirit
✨ 1. Stop replaying the “good moments”
That was their mask, not their core. You loved the illusion—not the impact.
✨ 2. Block the energetic access
Yes, block them. Block the fake healing memes. Block the playlist. Block the urge to “check in.”
✨ 3. Journal through the delusion
Ask yourself: What did I actually get from this besides anxiety, false hope, and pretty lies?
✨ 4. Take accountability without self-blame
You stayed longer than you should’ve—but you’re human. Now? You choose better. You choose YOU.
✨ 5. Replace obsession with obsession—over yourself
Obsess over your glow-up. Over your peace. Over your hot pink future where you only entertain what fuels your feminine power.
💋 Affirmation Break, Baby:
“I release every fake bond dressed up as fate.
I call back all my energy.
I forgive myself for believing in vibes over value.
I now attract clarity, consistency, and love rooted in truth—not tension.”
💌 Comment Check-In:
Drop a 🫖 if you’ve ever looked back on a “soul tie” and realized it was just a situationship with a good soundtrack and bad patterns.
You are not stupid.
You were hopeful.
You’re not broken.
You were loving from a place that hadn’t healed yet.
But now?
You’re not begging for text backs.
You’re not decoding mixed signals.
You’re not settling for “almost.”
You are the whole damn thing. And the next person?
Better come with clarity, consistency, and contribution. Or don’t come at all.
🧠 Journal Prompt:
“What parts of me were most triggered in that situationship—and how can I heal them now?”
Write. Don’t edit yourself. Let the truth pour out.
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